Super Strokes developed by John F. Taylor, Ph.D.
Super strokes are statements and actions that tend to develop, maintain, or enhance the child's experiencing of self-worth, social impact, self-direction, or self-confidence.
GRATITUDE: "Thank you!" "I am grateful for what you did."
SHARING A SKILL: "Now you can play pretty music for all of us." "Are there any other students whom you can help in math now?"
STRONGPATHY: "I'll bet that was fun." "You really enjoy doing that, don't you!"
SOCIAL IMPACT: "When you did that, it allowed me to rest 5 minutes." "You really helped Suzy by doing that."
RECIPROCAL FAVOR: "I'm sure Matt will want to play with you tomorrow since you played so nicely today." "When you help with the dishes, I have more time for playing with you."
UNIQUENESS: "Green is really your color." "Your suns always have such happy smiles."
SELF-DETERMINATION: "I would like you to do this, but you choose how and when." "You go right ahead if that is what you want."
SELF-IMPACT: "There are lots of things you can do to help yourself." "You're helping yourself by doing that." "Jogging will strengthen your heart and lungs." "It's nice to do something for yourself, isn't it!"
MATERIAL IMPACT: "You can build a lot of things with your new tool kit." "When you water the flowers, they will grow and bloom."
ACKNOWLEDGE EFFORT: "I can see a lot of work went into this." "I'm glad you tried."
LABEL THE ACT: "You tied your shoes." "You cleaned your room." "You drew me a picture."
STRONGPHASIZE STRENGTH: "This is easier for you now." "Your correct answers are circled in red." That part looked easy for you."
TELL ME ABOUT IT: "Tell me about your picture." "I'm interested to hear what you are doing in school."
Anger Control developed by John F. Taylor, Ph.D.
Play the ACE of Anger
Adapt to the situation
Confront means to talk
Deciding to leave the situation: talk to an adult first
Avoid being RUDE
Repeated useless venting
Under-expressing the anger
Dumping on others, pets, etc.
Exaggerating often results in loss of control
Friendship Skills developed by John F. Taylor, Ph.D.
Friend goes first
Talk about your friend
Friend chooses what to play
Talk about your friend's topics
Instead of "hogging the ball," take turns
Show you're happy that your friend is happy
Let your friend control his/her half; don't be the "boss"
Be a friendly host; practice meeting the friend's needs
Use the politeness words "please" and "thank you"
Feed the friend; have supervised kitchen fun
Give small appropriate gifts and share
Friend says when to stop
Do small favors
Mistakes are...DELICATE developed by John F. Taylor, Ph.D.
Preventing perfectionism by encouraging a healthy attitude toward mistakes
"Your mistakes are........."
"Look how far you've come"
"That's why pencils have erasers"
"Success means any forward progress"
"You didn't run out of talent; you just ran out of time"
"Let's see what's giving you the trouble here"<> "Every mistake has a cause"
"You can't do a mistake on purpose"
"You're just not ready for this right now"
"Mistakes only prove you're trying"
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